I have done a month of class now and am about to leave for a trip to Qinhuangdao plus hopefully quite a few other places if we manage to crack the Chinese train network.
I'm now 21, thank you to anyone who wished me happy birthday!
October holiday and the Chinese train system
Last week we discovered that the first week of October holiday was suddenly a lot closer than we had realised and that if we weren't careful we would be stuck in Beijing for the entirety of it. We also realised that we need our passports for travelling within China and for sure on planes, which limited our modes of transport to train as Will doesn't have his back from the visa office yet. Big exciting plans were made of travelling to Mongolia or the Tibetan boarder and so on, in the relative comfort of 30hour sleeper trains. These dreams were dashed by the ticket offices in Wudaokou, and almost impossibility of trying to buy tickets anywhere as a westerner on one of the two major holidays in the Chinese calender hit us hard. We queued for hours from 730am outside the ticket office, only to be told at nine that on the day of tickets being released and being one of the first in the queue, that there were no tickets to any of our destinations except the odd hard seater (which is like being in the underground at rush hour but for 30hours and with worse hygiene). After a few attempts, we went up one last time determined to actually come away with a slip of paper and a destination on it regardless of what it was.
Do you have a ticket to here?
| The ticket office... |
how about here?
meiyou.
here?
meiyou.
here??
meiyou.
Do you have any tickets anywhere??!
meiyou. (this is said to us at the front of a queue of Chinese people going down the street as far as the eye can see, and after all the people in front of us have been happily skipping away with little pink tickets in their hands)
I don't believe you. Qinhuangdao, do you have tickets to Qinghuangdao??
you. (yes)
Finally we have found a ticket going to a smaller city by the sea, about three hours away and leaving tomorrow morning. We are planning on getting another train, probably sleeper to some of the bigger places further north after a couple days, but first we'll hopefully hang out and go sailing for a bit as Will has a friend who teaches sailing there. Mission sort of accomplished.
The whole experience felt like everyone else knew something we didn't, and no one was going to tell us how to play the game. As if I was saying 'open up!' instead of 'open sesame', so nothing was happening and I was totally oblivious to why what I was saying was any different. I just really hope that when we get to the ticket office in Qinghuangdao (you can only buy tickets from the place you're in and a certain number of days in advance), we will be better at working the system, whatever it is. Either way, there is a really good group of seven of us going and that alone should be enough to make the week fun.
Chinese Children
I've started teaching English part time to earn some travel money which has been good fun so far. One of my students Alicia who is 10 has 2 hours of small group tutoring plus another hour and a half with me straight afterwards on a Saturday morning which seems loads to me. After class last week her mum came up to me and started talking to me about how it was too much time and wanted to make some changes, which I presumed meant she wanted me to teach her for less time as she wasn't coping with the workload. I was however, totally wrong. What she meant was that the week off English was too much time for Alicia and that she wanted to arrange some extra classes during the holiday to keep up Alicia's work. It's very hard core but it works, her English is great and she's been moved up a class already! This is a classic example of the Chinese Tiger Mum, totally ordinary in Beijing but a lot more rare in the UK! Have a look at the article written last year about the phenomenon: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html
Another aspect of the Tiger Mum stereotype which has impacted my life in its own special way is the music practice. All through the early evening in my block of flats there is a cacophony of various classical instruments (piano is the dominant one) echoing through the buildings and onto the street outside. There is a child in the flat above mine that plays the piano very devotedly, and has been practicing one particular piece repeatedly for a good few hours now. Unfortunately their level has not reached the stage where it is enjoyable for anyone to listen to, but that day will come if she keeps at it like they have been since we moved in!
Breaking out of the expat bubble
Really getting close to local Chinese people is something that even the most enthusiastic foreigner struggles with here. I know some people that live with Chinese people and some who are really incredible at Chinese, and yet it would be almost unheard of for a westerner or even another Asian ethnic group to be closest to only Chinese people. I have made quite a few Chinese friends since I arrived here and I can definitely see myself getting to know them well, but I don't think it will ever become the case that I rely on them equally or more than the other foreigners who I've come across. It feels like in Beijing you have an instant bond with every other nationality except for the Chinese, and the average Chinese person lumps us all together into the same Laowai/foreigner category too. It's hard to say who is enforcing the divide more because it is definitley something that both sides contribute to, and it is a shame that integration doesn't come more naturally. Talking to friends who are doing year abroads in Europe and South America, blending in with natives has come quite naturally but here if you are to manage that you really have to push for it and with that it is still something you are unlikely to succeed at as far as I can tell from what I've seen and the people I've spoken to. However, I am hopeful that I will continue to be close with the Chinese people I've already got to know through various different activities and I am going to keep making an effort to meet more Chinese people naturally. A couple days ago I decided to do some of my language work outside in the little park inside my flat compound. For the first twenty to thirty minutes I was totally ignored or given strange looks, but then a little boy ran up to me and said 'hello my name is Bobby', and all of a sudden there was a deluge of children trying to work out how to play fruit ninja on my Ipad, and a kind woman next to me teaching me how to eat the roasted lizi nuts she had brought with her in the Chinese way. I even got invited to go on a day trip with her when I get back in October! I don't know if I'll be able to repeat that kind of encounter but it's a sign that people aren't as uninterested in you as it seems most of the time.
An inspirational quote printed on my bike seat for you all to ponder:
Hover
Dancer of the life
Just like a travel in life Let soul travel
WiND DANCE
